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The secret to a man's heart is
not food or sex...it's respect.
I know many women wonder why men
are always willing to fight even to the death because they have been
disrespected, it's simply because RESPECT is all we want.
The reason why men have
respect for each other and solve conflicts faster and never hold grudges. We
respect each other. We do not pry where we are not supposed to and we have
secret codes which we all understand. For example in a urinal there are bowls
placed next to each other. Instead of going next to where a gentleman is
handling his business another man would go to the furthest or to the main
toilet, because it is respect.
Most women who have discovered
this have always found life very easy. If you have noticed your mother
championing for human rights but bowing to her husband as she gives him his food,
it is not slavery, that woman knows what her husband wants. Of course the Bible
expects a woman to submit to her husband, but he will always go for respect
first.
Respect entails having his say,
if there is a problem with the electricity let him fix it, let him pay for your
meals at a restaurant, ask him for his opinion on a cloth you want to buy,
approach with humility and avoid nagging when you want something done.
If a man
asks for time to think about nothing let him do so. We men love thinking and get
lost in our dreams, fantasies and visions and we are very volatile when someone
decides to break our concentration. It is not a way of ignoring people, it is
our way of trying to make sense of the world and planning what to do next.
If
you want a man to talk to you to express his interests give him time. Respect
his space and wait for him. True men nowadays take time to make their
intentions known. Maybe he does not want a relationship or is not ready for
one. We don't want to end up with the wrong person or one who will not be
compatible with us. If you are wife material we need to assess, get advice from
our boys and our mothers who know us better and can help make an informed
choice. We try to avoid future conflicts if we can.
It may sound bias and subjective
but that is the best I can define respect. I am all for women empowerment and
having equal rights, but let us face it, we will never be the same. There are
aspects about us that will be different and all the men want is respect.
If you know a man respect him for
what he is worth. Do not insult a guy and downgrade his status, that is the
worst sin and the reason for many conflicts, breakups and divorce. If you earn
a better salary than your man do not rub it in his face; if something he fixed in the house did not
work again, encourage him; if he is taking time to propose to you do not rush
him; and always talk with as much respect and humility as you can master. We
men do not want slaves, we want partners who can respect us. If you do that
your life with men, young or old, friends, brothers, cousins, potential
boyfriends and even husbands, will be very smooth. If you feel it is
discrimination, do not complain when men ignore you. Someone wrote the secret.
The only way to a man's heart is
not food or sex...it is RESPECT
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